Iāve ended up on the engagement side of TikTok, despite being nowhere near ready to say I do. Perhaps itās the algorithm feeding into my desires of bright, shiny, expensive things or my newfound appreciation for Netflixās Love is Blind but, more and more, Iāve come face-to-screen with 6-carat stones and intricate, pave diamond bands.Ā
While the reality show-level rings arenāt at the highest priority of my buy-list, TikTokās combination of force-feeding me stealth wealth aesthetics and mob-wife visuals have convinced me that, in fact, Birkins and fur coats arenāt the true sign of opulent, well-mannered investment buys: instead, diamonds are.
Tennis bracelets, illusion studs, and dainty, diamond necklaces have all been transformed from high-end items into something that feels more attainable as I stepped into my mid-twenties at the start of the year. While 2023 felt like the girl of the girl, complete with bows, dresses, and superfluous frills, 2024 is the year of the woman: and, frankly, whatās more of an āadultā thing to do than to buy yourself diamonds?Ā
Whether youāre searching for naturally-mined stones, lab-grown pieces, or consciously-crafted alternatives, thereās a wealth of knowledge online about diamonds and their affordable counterparts, largely thanks in part to female-owned direct-to-consumer luxury brands and well-trusted jewelry behemoths who have just recently stepped into the diamond business.
Lab-grown diamonds have existed for decades, well before the engagement and fine-jewelry business got their hands on them. Previously used in machinery or in tools for drilling and polishing, lab-grown diamonds werenāt really seen as desirable by the Gemological Institute of America, or, the GIA. Prior to the mid-2010s, the group (who is responsible for grading and vetting a vast majority of diamonds in the United States) referred to lab-grown diamonds as āsyntheticsāā a far cry from opulence, wealth, and desirability that the stone often represents. After the GIA began grading lab-grown diamonds on the same scale as naturally-mined diamonds in 2019 and the taboo slowly faded about whether or not lab-grown stones were ārealā diamonds, their demand skyrocketed.Ā
To the untrained eye, lab-grown diamonds and naturally mined diamonds look nearly identical. Besides a miniscule engraving that can be found on the side of the stone under a microscope, most people wouldnāt know the difference. The only way youād really be able to tell is in the case of engagement rings, Ring Concierge founder Nicole Wegman explained to Who What Wear.Ā
While there are hundreds of female-founded fine jewelry businesses on the marketplace, Wegmanās brainchild is the maverick. Ring Concierge, founded as the antithesis of the traditional, stuffy, man-run diamond industry, focused on meeting the needs of women rather than men buying for women. Founded in 2013, the brand aims to demystify the diamond industry and buying process. While Ring Conciergeās primary model relies on engagement jewelry, the brandās step into non-wedding jewelry in 2017 now makes up a significant portion of their revenue.Ā
Even when you put two stones together, you really canāt tell the difference besides the stoneās superficial features, such as the color or how internally flawless it is. The Ring Concierge engagementĀ rings Iām wearing below are the perfect example. Theyāre roughly the same size and similar specsā but the lab-grown diamond is nearly $20,000 less than the naturally-mined stone. Can you tell which is which?
Although lab-grown diamonds might be a more ethical and economic option, their value is decreasing year over yearā a point Wegman makes time and time again when it comes to investing in jewelry. Although youād never think about selling your engagement ring twenty years down the line, itās a real possibility. As more diamond laboratories open up and the marketplace becomes saturated with the stones, the diamond you may have paid $20,000 for ten years ago might be worth a measly $5,000 in the next five years.Ā
āThere’s just more competition as to who’s selling lab-grown diamonds. It used to be only a few people that did it. None of the luxury houses touched it. A lot of local jewelers didn’t touch it. Now, everybody’s selling lab-grown stones,ā Wegman says. āYou just have more competition and retail prices are going to come down. Where they bottom out is the huge question mark.ā
Although Ring Concierge offers lab-grown diamonds when it comes to engagement rings, their fine jewelry business nearly always relies on creating pieces with naturally-mined stonesā a choice, Wegman says, is all about transparency.Ā
āWhen it comes to fine jewelry pieces, the smaller [fine] pieces, the labor and the cost of gold are a very big component in the total price. the savings you would get by moving to lab grown become pretty nominal,ā she explains. ā[With fine jewelry], we need to create a product that we feel really good about, what it looks like, how it wears, but also the price-point and the long term value. The cost savings isn’t enough to offset the potential long term loss in value.ā
Donāt be fooled thoughā lab-grown diamonds in jewelry are only getting more and more popular by the year as both younger, Gen-Z affordable brands and jewelry behemoths enter the marketplace. Thereās a piece of the pie for everyone in the diamond conversation, whether youāre on the hunt for a subtle tennis necklace or a pair of oversized diamond studs. While direct-to-consumer brands were some of the first to step into the lab-grown diamond industry, luxury houses and well-established jewelry brands are embracing the affordable option. Just last year, Pandora, one of the largest jewelry chains in the United States, if not the world, expanded into the lab-grown diamond business with their fine jewelry assortment.
āDiamonds have such a long and storied history, and they are charged with so much wonderful emotionā joy, love, radianceā¦I could go on. But, the category has had quite some high walls around it in terms of how they can be worn, and relatively few people have had access to them,ā Joshua Braman, Pandoraās Global Senior Vice President of Diamonds, explained to Who What Wear. āWe seek to change that.ā
Unlike traditional diamond pieces, the Pandora collection feels grounded in an everyday, liveable aesthetic: a push the brand has been on for months. Not only can you (and your wallet!) feel good about the diamonds youāre wearing thanks to Pandoraās lower, lab-grown-centered pricing and sustainability efforts, but your pieces donāt have to feel too fancy or something youād only wear on special occasions. Diamonds, frankly, are for everyone: āAs a brand that gives a voice to peopleās loves as our core purpose, we design and craft jewelry that are vessels of meaning for our consumers. Lab-grown diamonds are a perfect complement to that strategy as diamonds are so charged with meaning ā love, strength, joy, light, radiance, etc,ā Braman says.Ā
Thereās additional lab-grown stones that are gaining tractionā Iām a newfound stalker of Redditās moissanite forum and TikTokers are raving about an even more alternative stone: lab-grown white sapphire thanks to buzzy jewelry brand, Dorsey. In all honesty though, thereās something special about a diamondā especially as a young, working, woman of color. Whether or not theyāre naturally-mined or lab-grown, itās something that represents some sort of success, especially as I enter my mid-20s, on the hunt for something that represents a milestone in my life. While the sheer amount of hours I’ve spent hunting down a pair of diamond studs or a dainty, subtle tennis necklace could be embarrassing to anyone else, the fact remains: the best way to begin your fine jewelry journey is to soak up as much information as you can. Gen-Z is redefining the conversation on their own terms, looking for pre-investment buys that will let them get the look for less while, in turn, making smart choices on what they chose to spend their money on.
āI think with fine jewelry, I think there’ll be a place for lab-grown diamonds,ā Wegman went on to explain. āI think there’ll be brands that do plated demi-fine jewelry and lab-gowns, and it’s a great low price point. Maybe it’s perfect for Gen Z, who can’t really get into the fine category quite yet in their career path.ā
What route you chose to go entirely depends on your lifestyle and budget, but either way, the diamond conversation is actively expanding to include diverse voices, affordable options, and female-founded companies that otherwise wouldnāt have been given the platform. If all else fails, at least youāll have something shiny to get you through the days. As they say, diamonds are a girlās best friend after all, arenāt they?